2014 New Year’s Resolutions For A Better Life


2013 is coming to a close, and this year has had a lot of ups and downs for my personal life.  At Lockheed, we sit down and brainstorm on things to start/stop/continue for our future growth every year.  Sitting back to reflect, I have come up with a list of things to stop from 2013, which should lead to a great start in 2014.  I am not big on setting resolutions, so instead I consider these life lessons to integrate into my psyche for a more positive and successful year!

  1. Stop running from my problems. 
  2. Stop lying to myself.
  3. Stop putting my own needs on the back burner.
  4. Stop trying to hold onto the past.
  5. Stop berating myself for old mistakes.
  6. Stop exclusively looking to others for happiness.
  7. Stop being idle.
  8. Stop thinking I’m not ready.
  9. Stop getting involved in relationships for the wrong reasons.
  10. Stop rejecting new relationships just because old ones didn’t work.
  11. Stop trying to compete against everyone else.
  12. Stop being jealous of others.
  13. Stop complaining and feeling sorry for myself.
  14. Stop holding grudges.
  15. Stop wasting time explaining myself to others.
  16. Stop doing the same things over and over.
  17. Stop overlooking the beauty of small moments.
  18. Stop following the path of least resistance.
  19. Stop acting like everything is fine if it isn’t.
  20. Stop trying to be everything to everyone.
  21. Stop worrying so much.


Not all was bad habits though.  Personal growth is a continual challenge, and 2013 gave me some great new habits that I would like to continue including:

  1. Continue being grateful for the life I have built.
  2. Continue owning my mistakes when I make them, and work to correct them.
  3. Continue to realize perfection is an illusion – happiness does not spring from perfection.
  4. Continue to be quietly strong when confronted by people who are trying to bring you down by projecting their own issues on you.
  5. Continue to forgive others, and understand they are usually from a place of internal pain.
  6. Continue to not be scared to make mistakes. Mistakes are the part of life that grow your soul’s strength.
  7. Continue to realize I am not anyone else.
  8. Continue investing energy in people that elevate my life to a higher level.
  9. Continue focusing on my health.
  10. Continue being a change agent for my life, and for my community.

And of course, you need to challenge yourself, otherwise you will stagnate.  So here are some new challenges for 2014 that I want to personally attain and integrate into my being:

  1. Start focusing on participating in activities that make me happy.
  2. Start breaking unhealthy routines in my life.
  3. Start realizing that the moments during a year that seem to be the end are just a new beginning.
  4. Start having fun each and every single day.

How To Let Go Of Your Past To Bring About Your Future

Too often I talk to people that have become complacent, have built up their walls, and have become so jaded that they forget the magic and mystery of the world around them.  They forget that 150 years ago, man did not fly, radios did not exist, television did not exist, and we rubbed radium on our teeth as a way to make them glow for fashion.  We live in such a technologically advanced world today that the magic of how it all works has become mundane.  I challenge everyone that has become complacent in their now to embrace and contemplate the world around them that joins the beauty of the natural night sky above with a weave of information that unites every human being on this planet.  There is so much to be amazed by – embrace that joy your soul feels when you realize how truly astounding it is, and challenge yourself to change your thoughts and your habits today to reach a better, more successful future for yourself and for those around you tomorrow.

I challenge you to change your attitude through small actions:

  1. Compliment one person every day.
  2. Turn off the television.
  3. For every negative thought you have and catch, think a positive thought about how you can affect change to make this negative disappear from your reality.
  4. Meditate for one full minute at least once a day.
  5. Name three things every day you are thankful for.
  6. Do ten pushups every time you feel yourself getting anxious.
  7. Read 5 pages of a novel daily – let your mind take a mental vacation.
  8. Go outside and walk 100 steps.  Observe the world around you, and breathe deeply.
  9. Drink one glass of water in silence of both your voice and your mind.

Once you start on these small things, you will find that the calmness and peace of mind that arises within you will help you challenge your anxiety for the future, reduce your stress for the present, and allow you to let go of the past.  Once you do, you will normally find that today’s mountains are really mole hills.